Attachment injuries occur when we don’t feel cared for or supported in a relationship. Every relationship goes through injuries. It’s not realistic to meet each other’s needs all of the time, and your expectations don’t always match your partner’s. One of you may want to be waited on when sick, while the other prefers sleep or solitude. Some injuries are severe, such as physical, verbal or emotional abuse. Injuries that happen during times when we feel very vulnerable may leave a trauma imprint. You may notice times when you are highly reactive in a relationship without understanding why. You may feel small – like a child or teenager in those moments. You may go into self-protect mode due to a past injury that somehow resembles this current situation. Your senses are scanning for ways to prevent further injury. It’s not necessary to keep repeating this pattern. You can’t change the past, but you can heal and grow from your experiences. The mighty oak grows from an acorn, weathering many storms along the way. You are stronger than you think! Your therapist can help you use your strengths and wisdom to heal.